I also believe the dialog is ever so important. My challenge is the stereotyping of any subculture and , even more challenging, is the audacity of some of my subculture to demand special consideration based on the perceived discrimination which occurred in the past to others of the subculture. or take a select number of incidents to form a general conclusion.on a subculture. it is my firmly held position that once you give special consideration to any one individual or subculture you have effectively discriminated against another individual. I have repeatedly talked to many in my so called subculture that want society to pay for the discrimination that someone , who happened to a cysgendered, placed upon them from their prospective and life experiences.
I believe that the open discussion is the best way to change the prospective of people and help us on our journey which will unite us as people. the anger in society and in the transgendered community is a critical component that will continue to divide the community at large. I believe that open dialog and conversation with an open heart is the only way we can begin to repair the soul . it seems like I am alone because of my experience with the transgendered community and what divides me from the community is not my experiences on hormones but my belief in god and morality. my belief in god and my ability to open up the deep wounds of the past and ask for help from so many in the va and outside the va and risk so much mentally to heal my heart and soul is critical in my healing.
I have known that merging the past with the present is critical in my healing. i know many within the community many wish to forget who they were before hormones. i believe this is a mistake and this will not be effective in the long term. i am looking for solutions and open to out of box solutions which is part of my sales career. I have been wrong more than I have been right in my journey on hormones. my ability to admit this in large audiences and in my private life has healed me decades in 2 short years. Lastly, if i try to forget my past I would have to push my daughter out of my life. this effective kill my heart and soul. This also would mean I would have block in my memory my accomplishments of graduating from penn state university, two tours in the united states marine corps, my sales career and all the good men and women I have met on my journey of life. I am extremely proud I am a marine, parent, sales woman and so much more. my gender will never be the totality of who I am but a part of who I have become.
I wish I had more answers but it seems like for every answer I have 3 or more questions. i honestly feel like I don't belong in a culture with so much hatred, misconceptions and anger. I have found that I have so much in common with people moving forward . I also demand the very best of myself and my support group is filled with women moving forward and ones that will not enable me. I believe far too much enabling occurs in the transgendered community. at some point after acceptance by society is achieved the community has to move forward and heal the wounds of the past.
My little secret is that the common denominator between with all of my friends is that you are spiritual people and moving forward and most of all positive minded. this is my comfort zone because of my sales career and my mentor i never met zig ziglar. I know I have been blessed by god and each day I cry because of the pain of my gender and thank god and beg that I can mentally heal before the surgery. i also thank him for you and all the women in my life and others for being brought in my life. i wish others in my community could open their hearts to god and know that so many in society do care. Give society a chance to say no and you might be surprised of how many say yes. zig ziglar would say each no brings you closer to a yes. yes I believe in society and there are so many good people .
thank you for your personal thoughts. i value the friendship and kindness you have shown me over the past two years. today when I wrote my thread I remembered what you said to me when we first met , " rachel who gets to define who a woman is?" this was the best thing you have done for me ; you got me to think, grow and understand people in society really care.
rachel
note: this woman has helped me heal and the biggest gift she has given me is her time, friendship and kindness. I offered my heart and friendship and the same was returned with no exceptions
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