sales position challenges and women in my life

i just officially resigned from my company because  we are not " a good fit."  I had challenges on hormones but .... I met some fantastic people at work and will miss them a great deal. the women at work helped me not only survive the work environment but thrive. One woman serves in a leadership position at the company.

 Last November I was in the zone and in one week had 42 sales in one week and 12 sales in a day.  I thought to myself I still have the gift to sell.  I had numerous hang ups and lost a few sales because of my gender and despite all of that I came up top sales that week.  I thrive on competition and sales brings out the very best in me. 

 I took on challenges that are not for the faint of heart.  The discrimination I faced on the phone, sometimes, was every other call.  But still I took each phone call as an opportunity/challenge to grow.  Customer would say " your name is Rachel?"  I demanded the very best of myself and refused to quit or back down. (marine thing )

How did I respond to "your name is Rachel?" I replied "yes my name is rachel."  Sometimes when asked the same question again I would spell my first name and still others I would spell my first and last name. When referred as sir. I would respond please, ..... it is rachel or miss.  I was unrelenting in my pursuit to succeed in the profession I loved.  My blessing and curse is my motto of " it’s all or nothing."  In this case I succeeded where others like me would make excuses for having a deep voice.I believe that is why I have very little depression is I stop making excuses and demand the very best of myself.

I had a conversation with someone where I use to work.  We talked very open and honestly and I asked the question have you ever met any one like me? The response was, typical one in my world, the transgendered he had met were either drama queens or blended into the work place .... and there is you.  I just want to be me and respected nothing more nothing less.  I am seeking equality not special treatment because of my gender. 

I know people talk about transgendered discrimination but the reality is that the discrimination is not transgendered but being a woman.  This is something that I did not think would be an issue.  Again, I was wrong about so much from the prospective of what challenges I would have to overcome and the reality of the challenges on estrogen.  The women in my life have come to my aid so many times I cannot count.  In all honesty, it has been this way all of my life.( I cry often that the women have in my life have never waived and stood by me no matter what.  I consider myself the luckiest woman on the planet.  Without the good grace of god and the women in my life  there would be no Rachel. This is pure fact.

  As I have told my close friends that my strength is only as the strong as the women around me. I have been able to surround myself with women who are well educated, driven and very ethical.  What do we have so much in common?  Our gender is important to us but not everything in our lives.  Our conversations are about everything from politics,  work,  our struggles in life, our families, and yes some about my gender but it does not dominant the conversation.  We have an emotion connection  and the prospective of a woman and help each other when possible. 

In my darkest hours I have reached out to a few women.  They help guide me through challenges that seemed impossible to overcome.  I have succeeded where others failed because of the women in my life.  Just when I am about to break or give up one of my friends is there to help me work through what seems like hell.  It is my belief that I have grown exponentially because of my environment otherwise the women around me. 

In all honesty my blog which seems so horrible but the  challenges in the blog merely scratch the surface of the challenges on hormones.  I have shared the real story with friends that I would trust with my life.  

 When on hormones at times you cannot make rational decisions because you are in crisis and in a fight or flight mode.  But  since I have the ability to trust and know these women have my best interest at heart.  I follow my friend’s advice and not once have they given me advice that was not in my best interest.  However, I am very careful what I write on my blog and post on facebook because I have the right to go public but they have the right to their privacy. I would never violate their trust.

Another big thank you for the 100’s of women who have helped in my journey of life.